The most dominant model of masculinity, the real man or tough man concept has been around for centuries.  However in recent decades the model has been weighted towards the hyper- masculine or extreme masculinity. Modern media, in its never ending quest for ratings, continually magnifies the hyper-masculine. This trend results in TV and film heroes becoming larger, more muscular and more violent, every few years. Read more »

Trent Dalton recently did an interview with me for QWeekend inside the Brisbane Courier Mail on November the 10th.  It is a great article and may help some men or boys build better lives. The reason for interviews is to get the word out and sell books which help shift consciousness.

But wouldn’t you know, they got my name wrong, it happens often, I became, for 700,000 readers,  Pip Cornell again - maybe I should change my name to Pip Cornell!

I do compliment Trent for capturing, in simple and succinct prose, much of the essence of my work. Trent penned a nice piece of writing and shows a wisdom beyond his years to be able to describe my work so elegantly.

In a nutshell, my goal is to empower men to develop healthy masculinities, a sustainable masculinity. Yep that’s right, the current masculinity is not sustainable. We must ask why it is men who rape, who fight wars, who burgle our neighbourhoods and who commit most of the domestic violence. Read more »

“HOW TO SURVIVE DIVORCE AND THRIVE” is handbook 2 in the Sustainable Masculinity series of self-help books for men. All the books are designed to be easy to understand and quick to read. This book aims to support and build men’s emotional wellbeing during divorce because there is a great need for this kind of support.

Here are some vignettes from the book.

• If you’re a man chances are you’ll get married and then you’ll have an even chance that you’ll be divorced. That divorce will be initiated by women in up to 93% of cases.

• Divorce, though devastating, can be a catalyst for men to make huge positive changes to their lives and increase their emotional wellbeing. In fact emotional intelligence, sometimes called emotional competency or emotional fitness, is an essential aspect of being healthy and should be included in any fitness or health plan for men.

• In terms of health, and happiness, it may be the most crucial factor; it can make or break our lives. Author Grace Gawler (“Women of Silence”) encourages men and women to build an emotional bank account and keep it in the black so that when those big life challenges such as divorce arrive, as they always do, we have a fat account to draw from. Read more »